Divorce has a way of turning even the most calm and patient people into stressed out messes. The expense, nitpicking battles with the soon to be ex-spouse, and overall negativity of the process can frustrate and unravel you to the point where you barely recognize yourself. According to this article, there are several steps you can take early on in the divorce process to keep your sanity and make it through with your dignity still intact.

First of all, a good divorce lawyer is VITAL. A respected, experienced attorney will make all the difference in your case. In the Orlando and Central Florida areas, The Llabona Law Group has been offering caring and aggressive family law representation for English and Spanish speaking clients for many years. You definitely want to hire an attorney who is respected by local judges, as this can only help your case.

The article also recommends finding a therapist, if you don’t already have one. It helps to be able to vent and work through your negative feelings with a neutral party. Also, don’t be afraid to ask friends and family for extra support during this tough time. Surrounding yourself with support can make a huge difference in how quickly you bounce back.

Another recommendation is to stay solution oriented. The article suggests that the most productive way to deal with your soon to be ex is to engage with them in a straightforward, businesslike manner. Arguing back and forth wastes time and gets both parties fired up and angry. By focusing on solutions, rather than blame, you and your partner can work toward agreement in a dignified manner.

Sometimes, you will just need to get out of your head and take a mental break from the drama. Escape in a book or a show. Release pent up frustrations by exercising or doing yoga. Try to notice the things in your life that are still good, such as a beautiful sunset, your child’s giggle, and the mouthwatering aroma of delicious food. And remember, this WILL pass! It’s easy to get caught up in the worry and stress, but at some point, the process will be over. Don’t let the negativity change you. Remember who you are, and you will make it through the divorce process even stronger than you were before.