In the midst of a heated divorce, it can be easy to lost track of what is really important. Often, dueling spouses will use whatever they can to make their soon-to-be ex look bad, or to cause them pain. Sadly, it is not uncommon for spouses to drag children into the middle of the drama, and to use the children as a pawn or weapon in the divorce. Threatening, “I’ll see to it that you’ll never see the children again!” Starting arguments in front of the children. Talking badly about the other parent in front of the children. Being so consumed with winning or beating their spouse that they forget that the children still need both parents, and except for situations involving abuse or addiction, the children truly benefit from having a close relationship with both parents.
In some cases, the dueling parents don’t even consider what the kids want as far as living arrangements. Unfortunately, in cases where one parent does manage to keep the kids from the other parent, or manages to discourage the child’s relationship with the other parent, when the child grows up, they inevitably figure out what happened and will feel anger and resentment toward the parent that blocked their contact with the other parent.
Even though it is hard to speak neutrally of a person that you feel intense negative feelings toward, it is important, for your children’s sake. Remember, the child is not getting a divorce from either parent, and still needs a loving, supportive relationship with both parents. As hard as it is, try to keep things civil with your spouse, and keep your children out of the arguing as much as possible. Divorce is hard on everyone involved, and it is especially confusing for children.
If you are considering divorce and live in the Orlando area, contact the attorneys at The LLabona Law Group. Our lawyers are experienced with divorce, child support, child custody, and all other family law matters.