Top Ten Reasons for a Divorce

Married  couples divorce for many reasons, but their reasons usually fall into ten categories.  Although some of the issues in a marriage can be addressed if caught in time, there are those issues that may not be repairable.

  • Infidelity is one of the most common reasons for divorce in this country.  Although cheating is usually the ultimate relationship death sentence, the percentage of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity is 41 percent.
  • When you marry, whether you like it or not, your new spouse’s family is now your family.  Most in-law problems happen when your partner’s parents treat you disrespectfully, ignore you, are openly hostile to you, criticize you frequently, attempt to control you or your partner using money or guilt, give you unsolicited advice, expect your partner to choose between you and them, or expect your partner to meet their unmet emotional and/or practical needs.  When any of these issues are severe, it can disrupt your marriage if steps are not taken to curb their potential negative impact.
  • If you are being abused, whether it be physical, emotional or verbal, in a marriage, your should not stay as 99.9 percent of the time the abuse will not stop.
  • It has been said that the love of money is the root of all evil.  Whether this is true or not, money problems are at the root of many disputes between married couples and can lead to divorce.
  • Stress in a marriage can build up and manifest itself in many forms in a marriage, from abuse to sexual problems.  If a couple does not deal with the stress in their marriage, it can ultimately lead to divorce.
  • Addiction in a marriage in any form – alcohol, drugs, sex, etc. – can ruin a marriage and even the life of the addicted spouse.
  • When a person is unaware or refuses to admit he has a mental disorder, whether it be depression or bipolar disorder, the issue can cause a multitude of problems in a marriage and can also lead to divorce.
  • Perhaps one of the most common reasons for divorce is a lack of communication.  This is also one of the easiest issues in a marriage to fix.  If a couple can have an open dialogue, concern for their partner’s feelings and learn to compromise in their dealings with one another, their marriage has a good chance of lasting.
  • Although a married couple does need to have some independence in their marriage, too much time away from each other can lead to problems, too.  Married couples need time together to grow and mature as a couple.  Too much time apart can lead to infidelity, which as we all know, leads to divorce.

To avoid divorce, a married couple needs to focus on finding solutions to any problems that may arise in their relationship.  By dealing properly with the above issues when they arise, a couple will not only be more likely to avoid divorce, but have a successful marriage as well.

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